There is some dysfunctional part of the human brain that hasn’t yet learned to function through emotion. When I get too sad or too mad, the entire system goes on power-save, and all logic goes out the window.
I was once dumped right before an English final. English has always been one of my best subjects, but I was so upset during the exam that I couldn’t focus on anything except for my own heartache. I failed the final, and subsequently the class. When my parents asked me what happened, I shrugged and played the part of apathetic teenager.
Today I said good-bye to my fiancé for at least several months, and although it’s no “dumped before an English final” sob story, my heart is aching. Sometimes, saying good-bye is easy. Other times, it’s unspeakably and irrationally hard. I have found that it does not get easier with time. Although I generally consider myself to be a long-distance relationship pro, I acted like an amateur today and pulled a rookie move: I started wallowing.
For those of you find yourself to be “in a funk”, I would like to offer some advice that has worked personally for me. Disclaimer: I do not claim to be an expert about any psychological disorders, I merely know myself and how to kickstart my own healing.
The first step is to get up and DO something. For me it really helps to be around people, especially people I trust.
As for what to do, the answer varies. Today, I found solace in the perfection of tomato soup on a rainy day combined with my very first book of 2015. The Hunger Games series once carried me through a particularly difficult summer (if Katniss can be the Mockingjay, you can surely get up and face the day!). The most important thing is that it’s a book, movie, or activity that you can really lose yourself in.
Missing someone is natural, but when you’re ready to pick yourself back up, I recommend a really good book.
Three Tried & Tested Books Good Enough to Keep Your Mind Off of It
1. The Hunger Games, Suzanne Collins
Kill or be killed. You can’t spare a second to feel bad for yourself because you’ll be so caught up in the intense action of this book!
2. Gone Girl, Gillian Flynn
3. Station Eleven, Emily St. John Mandel (currently reading!)
Good luck readers!